A process of Personal Transformation

December 29, 2013 Leave a comment

I had been aware for some time of my limiting thoughts, emotional blocks and strange behaviours –  these are basically hangovers from our past, our previous learned responses which had outlived their usefulness to the person we might wish to be …. for me they were stopping me taking a leap … however the strange part is that I had the answer within me .. what I needed to do was repeat a process which I had carried out once before –  for when you think about it,  everything in life is a process, in this case to confront these behaviours which were now irrelevant to my life and renew myself … in a way to renounce who and what I was, and allow myself the freedom to introduce myself to what next evolution of me … the same process is available for everyone, from that awareness, we eventually come to the Acceptance that action is needed … then when we are ready we do take action.

Twenty years ago, I went through a period of intense personal change –  the process was built around and was integral to a very small team environment … looking back now, the program was based on the original  12 step program .. this is a proven program, which has been going since 1935 … in my case I am not driven by the need to stop drinking, but by the need to use the Transformational 12 steps program to bring around personal change … to change the way I react – so that basically I don’t .. in fact to change my default response to pause and reflection before I respond – to give me that time so I would consider the impact of my words and deeds on others, but also our own evolution … in other words to respond from strength, instead of reacting from weakness –   for me the outcome made me whole –  after the completion of the program, I am content, with me … however the work doesn’t stop there, for now on it is also a continual process of self assessment –  in this occasion , I knew it was time, I was committed to change, in fact, I had been looking for a way to make it happen since April … and just before this time, I felt in a state of continual darkness, always feeling my way forward, metaphorically falling over stuff .. this stuff was my past, my beliefs, my history, my limitations.

Note before starting … you need to be committed to this course of action without any reservation … if you are not committed, it won’t work .. you can’t fake it … you need to follow the steps, some are not easy because they can be a very confronting process –   have the courage and belief in the process to follow where they lead, for if you want your future to be different from your today … it is journey you must take ..  you might use the analogy that the process, is almost a low level reformat of the way we look at life … it is equivalent to a process of clean up and clean out — its worth it,  let me assure you.

I went to a local AA meeting, just to feel the atmosphere .. to meet and talk to the people who had successfully come through the program .. a strength, a compassion, but an overall humbleness from everyone who had completed the program was all I felt … I went ahead with the steps in order, going through each until I was absolutely happy that I was totally committed to it –  for me, as I was so committed to change and my previous experience with the program, it was not as difficult as I imagined, for I had been ready for such a process since the beginning of 2013 … note: –  you have to want to do it .. I might add doesn’t magically rid your personality of these reactions to stimulus, what it does is that it makes you very aware of your personal triggers to make reactions and behaviours and allows you to confront them and once you have there is no fear,  there is just contentment, happiness, love an a strength – a wish to help others –  remember we all have these demons at sometime during our path, our journey.

I believed I needed to become less reactive to stimulus .. to be mindful, present in the moment, to forgive and forget the past hurts and failures .. to bring into the present only the learning, my goal was to live life mindfully, part of which means we need to stay present .. for that is the only place where anything is created … this also means letting go of expectations (investing in them anyway), whatever they are, to be open to real abundance through love –  to be open to the infinity of the Universe through love and abundance.  I came to the realisation that when we invest in expectations we are by the very nature, creating illusions as these events are in the future, they haven’t happened yet, so we are in fact setting ourselves up for disappointment.

It took me a while to write about this, as I completed most of the steps back in October 2013 … to have the support of your family is a big plus, but one thing is so true, this process is something we have to do for ourselves and by ourselves … for that is where change must come from … the commitment to the self, and to the future self …. Good Luck!

If you feel the need, from the awareness of self, look at the process, if you need any help … please write … I will help how I can.

Since this, I have had some realizations that came from unblocking my limitations, incredible clarity has come …all this was like breaking through the shell if you like that enclosed my understanding … now I guess I am within a bigger shell … one day I will push through those limitations … Quite soon I will do another post of the process of learning to live mindfully.

Changing Priorities

September 2, 2013 Leave a comment

It is easy to look at what is wrong with the world, and only see the negatives of life … but recently I have chosen to change my focus away from the faults of humanity, with the realisation of a faint hope, as there are many people from all walks of life, just quietly going about making the world a little better through simple acts that work to create a positive future as well as many unheralded acts of kindness – they do this without press releases … they just do!

We are all on a journey, even those in the majority who currently appear to be spiritually unconscious … looking at life through their intellect, and their inward looking perspective, denying their feelings and spirit –  for it is my belief that it is a mistake to intellectualize our existence including our spiritual; side, for in doing so we are denying our humanity and a evolutionary imperative which is to achieve spiritual consciousness. Each of us as a member of humanity hopefully evolves from Childhood from our original enlightened states, to be educated normally into unconsciousness and through our life hopefully to an awakening of sorts and eventual consciousness – when we can look at the beauty that is in the world, all life and humanity … but most of all, with this real understanding comes love.

I look at the Universe, and think to myself, I have so much to learn, but I feel the first step is that I have so much to unlearn !

Whilst there are huge problems in the world, coming from those in power, who actions come from being spiritually unconscious, it is so clear that we are being continually manipulated by those in the ever more powerful Corporatocracy which seemingly runs the world … where Government and Bureaucracy seem to be their support, Entertainment and Public Relations Divisions … this is our status quo, and a huge influence on our cultural narrative … the way those in power and influence want to mold us and shape us to fit their view of the world and hence rubber stamp their flawed agenda which affects the future, concerns me .. it is evident in the way that we are presented with information, which we all must realise is never the whole story (or in some cases anything that resembles the true story) … we are manipulated knowingly to manufacture consent for their unconscious actions – currently it is Syria .. perhaps tomorrow Iran .. all for what reason .. one underlying motivation … money, oil and power … if anyone thinks that those in power care for the tens of thousands who are suffering …. please they do not.

There are other major concerns that continue including pollution, flawed water usage practices, including Hydraulic Fracturing (which is consuming and polluting our water reserves) and of course the current star in my opinion Genetically Modified foods (GMO), where companies including Monsanto are playing with humanities gene pool, trying to force us to eat seeds that are actually lower in yield than the wonder that nature has produced for us –  Nature however has a major advantage – her products have had extremely long term testing and are safe for us to consume … on the other hand all Genetically Modified Foods have had inadequate or no testing, certainly no long term generational tests – many times I have wondered if those at these GMO’s actually are true believers and eat these foods, or it really is just about the money, the power and the influence … and and so ladies and gentleman … welcome to the Monsanto and others world Laboratory .. where we are the test subjects, the Lab Rats.

After reading the above, I have a sadness … but this is what I mean … many things are wrong, but can I directly do anything substantive ? No –  I can only affect my environment in consultation with my loved one’s, who may of course have other points of view –  so a compromise may be reached  … but for me, I am finding again that focusing on the negative adds to my stress levels, takes me out of balance and away from the present into the realm of illusion. What I would prefer, is to be conscious … and hence creative, peaceful, giving and loving – so I have decided to try and detach myself from these concerns unless I can actually contribute … for many of these concerns are in areas where I cannot have any direct input – worry and angst serve no positive purpose.

Am I still concerned, about the things that are wrong ? Why Yes of course … and given the opportunity to actually help I probably would, but am I now preoccupied with what is wrong? No! –  I will quietly go about doing what I can to help us to prepare for the future by focusing on what I can create in the present … where everything in ones life has a potential for incredible depth and meaning.

Instead I am going to try and live by a simple prayer if you like … ”May my life be creative and be of benefit to love, life and the future” – if you think about the implications of such a statement, it alone, takes so much responsibility to guide our right thoughts and actions.

It may interest you, that once I made that decision, for the next few hours … a huge amount of stress bled from my body … strange and wonderful.

 

Reflecting on the Choices we make

April 25, 2013 Leave a comment

I have just come to the insight that when I am old and perhaps sitting in my rocking chair on my verandah … reflecting on my my life to that point … I will look at the life that my choices have created and I will be content that I have given everything I had … I will understand that I did the best I could have done given the beliefs and expectations I had at the time.

We need to learn from life .. as Einstein said … most of us keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results, surely this is the true definition of insanity .. we all do it … we try and engage with people with our flawed behaviour patterns and wonder at some point why more is demanded  … I have these failings … what worked in a business environment, has no chance of working in a personal relationship … we need to hit a moment in our lives, a surrender point  … and in that moment the imperative comes … as it does for the whole of humanity … change is the only course there is … its only about the stakes. The only thing that can be changed is the present … that is where we create the future – however when we have nothing left by choice or by circumstance that is when we are the most open to change … to find a way to achieve that, to rebuild who we are and to control our flawed behaviour patters would be something wonderful .. there must be a way … indeed something to think about, any thoughts would be welcome!

For the past, there is nothing creative that can come from regrets … they are only good for wallowing in … take the learning of those experiences, integrate them with your life, and move forward, allow those lessons to change the future.

Don’t get me wrong … I have screwed up sometimes publicly, many times personally with my loved ones and family … but at the time I led with my feelings, sometimes they were fraught and scattered .. too often they were about me and my needs  … and not what they should have been … but like all of us … life is an inside job … we create the life we believe in … the one we should have, at any moment in our lives – this changes in every moment as we evolve.

That is why our past does not determine who we are now, or in anyway it has a relation to who we will become … give yourself a break … the future is yours to create in this moment … for me I don’t have goals as such (other than to help  who I can) … I believe in a living my life, based on a few basic truths and with my values … they will get me where I need to be.

What each of is focus on may be different for each of us .. that is your personal preference, each one is valid for you

For me these are my focus:

(1) each morning I get out of bed, looking forward to the day ahead and what it will bring to me .. what I will learn.

(2) I know there is much I cannot do, but I can live my life in the best way for me … as well what I can do within my sphere of influence is to help who I can … who hopefully will pass that feeling onwards to others … I also know that looking at the enormity of what does need doing to make this a more loving world .. I can only help who I can … even if that is just one person, who hopefully will help others.

(3) Now, I think before I speak … knowing that what I say affects others .. trying to make everything I say improve on the silence .. because silence itself can be incredibly powerful – hence if you can’t say nothing that is positive and creative .. don’t say anything at all :)

(4) Be curious all the time at everything and anything – in relationships (all) seek to understand before you seek to be understood.

(5) I like to walk, to exercise, I suppose it is part of my meditation .. the pure zen of it, the one step in front of the other …

(6) I like to nurture … to create .. to me that manifests in my life in the building and investing in relationships … most times these are not deep .. but some can be … whether they end up being sustainable … is not really what is important … what is, is that every experience and every person that comes into your life, teaches you something about you … and what you need to understand and let your self push beyond your own boundaries .. to grow and evolve.

Love everyone … for they are part of us … all life is … my parting gift would be forgive yourself and look to, and trust your feelings for you know how you want to live your life … trust absolutely few people in your life … for trust is the ultimate gift one gives to another … it is the foundation of all real, long term “life” relationships. For me in that regard … I have been very fortunate.

Comments would be welcome … what aspects of life are important to you ?

xxxx

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Content vs Technology

April 8, 2013 Leave a comment

Whilst it is true in some aspects, we have come a long way from the original books of my school days … but I am wondering if our focus is on what really is of value, at the end of the day … the internet, all devices whether they be notebooks, tablets or Smart phones are a tool, a portal … a doorway only … these devices are not what should be valued … for in the case of education they just facilitate the access to what is really can be of value … the content… and of course there is much discussion as to what is the right content … Chomsky comments; The Purpose of Education – Is it creative or an Indoctrination (political, ideological ) a You Tube discussion is available here http://youtu.be/DdNAUJWJN08 … For me I feel it is an effort to produce cogs in a wheel with little thought given outside the strict guidelines of the chosen career path … for who they are as a person … those that do think outside the box are incredibly rare … and we find men and women in their 40’s … choosing a different life .. or perhaps the essence here is a different way of living life.

 

Teaching is a huge responsibility, and the actual pressures of teaching whilst at the same time being pressured for many sides concerning productivity … budgets – it is so clear that teaching is not what it used to be – so far as the huge amount and the breath of content there is to teach, is I am sure is part of the problem .. when I started with an Classical Arts education which talked about Art, History and the inherent transfer of values, principles and ethics, (before we decided on our career paths) admittedly it was a different world, however in the formative years of a child’s education I wonder if the intense focus on learning business or career applicable skills is the right course of action …. for things like true ethical behaviour cannot be taught in a classroom –  it is something that is integrated into your personality over time from your primary caretakers … such values and principles must be part of the person themselves … my view is that on-going education just educates us in how to learn to prepare for the work force … unfortunately too many of the graduates I have employed are too focused on theory and have little or no ability to understand the human cost of their decisions …. there is little or no empathy for the people and the lives they live (away from work) and the responsibilities that necessarily come with it … so we have huge numbers of people who just fall through the cracks .. with little or no safety net … this goes further as Lewis Carroll might have said, down the rabbit hole … into another discussion all together, outside the scope of this post.

 

I am not a teacher … but my observation would be is I wonder if the focus is going away from the content we are teaching the next generation … to focus on the technology that delivers the content … it like focusing on making a book, rather than the content it delivers … we could go deep into this (perhaps I will on one of my blogs) – the philosophy of the internet … however my view is that we need to focus on the content, and more face to face collaboration, although in an Online  Teaching Environment that may not be easy, but there are ways of fostering such a circumstance … otherwise we will end up with a generation, essentially of loners … whose world is the internet … and the fantasy world it represents … and hence  have no interest or ability to interface with fellow members of humanity – what kind of society that creates can’t be sustainable.

 

If we want to positively change the future of humanity away from the senseless pursuit of more, we need to start by changing that which our children are taught to value … if they learn to value technology over people and the content itself, that is like having the cart before the horse … would it not be preferable to foster a collaborative and creative culture, perhaps we need to start by really engaging and communicating with each other, rather than talking at each other –  after the essence of the internet is supposed to be social, and interactive, therefore engagement is a pre-requisite for a relationship .. we are no longer in the passive media days of Mass media … we should look at this further I feel.  To me we seem to be without thought, running full speed into a abyss, just because everyone else is.

The State of our Paradigm – January 2013

January 7, 2013 2 comments

I have the awareness that the paradigm we are all within is due for a reality check soon, if nothing changes, perhaps in the next few years … unless there is a planet wide epiphany which substantially changes the values that our current culture is based upon, other than that the outcome is inevitable … one can only speculate as the structure of the new paradigm, after the bumpy journey we will take to arrive there.

To me the world we are in is like watching the inevitability of a disaster in slow motion … while we run around looking busy, as if arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic (after it struck the iceberg) … strangely all this is known, predicted even, but no hard decisions are being taken … we are in denial … ineffective … we are in a continual state of stamping out “spot” fires that crop up, as with Greece, Portugal, Ireland, Spain plus, plus and possibly Italy and of course the European Union as a whole and the USA –  and the worldwide spiralling deficit .… . Once we have done all this, it only takes us back to where we were before, we are still in crisis.

Without taking any hard decisions, the outcome is inevitable as deficits grow, we have in place the ideal setting for the death knell of the European Union, the USA and many other countries in the world as we know it.

Please see countries ranked by External Debt here –  Worldwide, we are in a terminal situation …

For me … we are past the time to make those hard decisions –  surely some of these decisions should include abolishing all debt that was directly caused by the meltdown and change the laws so that all people whose illegal behaviour caused it, confiscate their money and let Banks and other institutions that were and still are vulnerable fail, as even today, Big Banks have failed the OCC Risk Tests –  their Corporate governance is terminally flawed, for their is no plan of what to do, and no one is in control anywhere … here is the link to that report concerning risk tests from an American Bank article … and those men and women whose greed caused this catastrophe, and so directly benefited from it, pay for their crimes. It won’t happen of course, but hard decisions are needed, that spread the load of cuts across all … not just focusing on social programs which always seem to be such a easy target –  for a start lets look at Political and bureaucratic sizes, salaries and perks.

The only country that did see the light after the Global Financial meltdown was Iceland. Instead of bailing out the banks and the status quo, they bailed out the people, the citizens and put the bankers into prison … beautiful… the Short Video story of that event is here

However when the system of money itself breaks down, say within the next 5–6 years, definitely within the decade – we will have no defense, we will be leaderless … as Governments which are at best ineffectual … although they would like us to believe otherwise, will not have the answers … because they are all paralysed with fear, whilst the people in Government are clever at manipulation, they are hardly intelligent nor have the taste or the backbones to make the decisions necessary … because the status quo will be chaos, they will ask what to do, because they won’t know, they will do nothing effective, and what they will do, will be to try and maintain the status quo –  which of course is already in transition and so no longer exists –  we may, I believe trend towards a state of anarchy, then at some point after the darkness and the inevitable gross hardships … we will hopefully see the dawn and Humanity will start again.

All those learning experiences we will go through – but will we learn, going on the past, we won’t, because in the future as now, we will say how could that happen to us ….. so because we have no backbone, no ability to see the situation as it really is … all of us are living in a kind of fantasy future … Now we look to a future, in “x” generations from now, we are told we will surface as we come out of the fiscal hole that greed and our leadership have dug for us … meanwhile the Politicians themselves don’t seem to be in any state of hardship …. however the costs of this head in the sand approach will lead to hardship on a untold scale as essential infrastructure breaks down – transport, food, communications …. the only upside is at the end of all this … those of humanity that survive will in effect have a clean slate.

Basically the cause of this tragedy is our own Arrogance, indifference, indecision, ineffectiveness and greed … what will they say of us … it was inevitable, why didn’t they see it coming … when it is so inevitable, why aren’t we doing something about it now ?

The only way we can stop this recurring Groundhog day cycle, so that it doesn’t happen again in the future is to change what we value, and that requires that we educate our children, now and for all time, so that in our arrogance and ignorance in the future, we might say “that was then, this is now, it won’t happen to us” –

But of course it will !

Let’s look soon at how we can minimize the effects of the transition from where we are now … to where we will end up !

~

There are Four types of men:

September 30, 2012 Leave a comment

Not to be sexist, insert either sex where applicable

There are four types of men:

1. One who knows and knows that he knows… His horse of wisdom will reach the skies.

2. One who knows, but doesn’t know that he knows… He is fast asleep, so you should wake him up!

3. One who doesn’t know, but knows that he doesn’t know… His limping mule will eventually get him home.

4. One who doesn’t know and doesn’t know that he doesn’t know… He will be eternally lost in his hopeless oblivion!”

Ibn Yami, 13th-century Persian-Tajik poet (Born 1286 in Faryumad, near Sebzevar; died 1368)

There is a another version as below by Solomon Ibn Gabriol (He was born in Malaga about 1021; died about 1058 in Valencia)

There are four types of men in this world:

1. The man who knows, and knows that he knows; he is wise, so consult him.

2. The man who knows, but doesn’t know that he knows; help him not forget what he knows.

3. The man who knows not, and knows that he knows not; teach him.

4. Finally, there is the man who knows not but pretends that he knows; he is a fool, so avoid him.”


Take what you will from either .. you get the idea …

My only comment would be that nothing seems to have changed

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The future is for us, to create together

September 5, 2012 Leave a comment

Recently I commented on a blog … it was truly a refreshing wind blowing through the normally .. Sclerotic thought processes of the status quo … I liked the post, I think we can learn from it … I would like as many as possible to read it …

A comment I made on the post … I feel acts as a good introduction 

I read many blogs each day, the majority offer criticism of what is .. with no developed alternative to suggest … here we see a way that normal people can break the current business as usual model … and create a real way forward at grass roots level, the writer of this blog post sees the problem clearly, for surely the essence of the failure of the current system is, Yes, competition is a good thing … but this focus of “killing” the competition leads to less competition, not more … and the Capitalist system only works when there is a lot of competition.

Instead, now we have ended up where power and control is increasingly being consolidated in few hands… and as history clearly shows consolidated power crushes liberty … there is no way for them to co-exist, and so democracy and freedoms are becoming a memory.

These same organizations where power is being consolidated have been driving us to “buy to consume” … Why ? … because they need us to, so they continue to exist … there is great wisdom and freedom in being free of debt … for when you are in debt, you are not only paying the debt with money, but also with your freedom.

Other aspects of this strategy, is that it supports like minded people and organisations. Also in the wider market, it gives Value driven support for small business, which allows them to grow and hence increase competition, and with the support of like minded organisations that are not driven just on price but on equity, relevancy and impact … it will succeed, this enhances choice.

At a community level, the exchange of produce to help each other is a great point to start with and perhaps over time, this may grow into community driven projects such as growing food, or (?), the great upside is that it gives purpose, and brings everyone together to help themselves and each other … this develops everyone involved, promotes community cohesion and purpose and lessens the likely hood that people will fall through the cracks.

This post makes sense as it is something that everyone can do today … to challenge and change the what is, to what it can be, for at the end of the day, if we all don’t do this who else will ?

The post is here it offers a critical point … the need by business to kill the competition is flawed … the trouble with that it destroys not only the competition, but also competition itself and the capitalist model … think about it …

Here my friends the future really is in our hands … we must create our own way … governments have shown themselves incompetent and incapable … so lets do it ourselves … ???

Any thoughts or comments are welcome …. or perhaps some thoughts at other topics to look at further ….

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