At times in our lives, circumstances bring us to a junction, we delay, we rationalise but eventually we face an excruciating decision, that in all cases, asks the question, do I stay on the path that I believed would lead me to my destiny, or do I take the road less traveled – sadly in this case I feel the decision has been made for me.
Life when lived in the present moment, begins in Acceptance, for life is all that we create in the present .. the future; is yet to be made … the past is history, or our personal version of it, it is really a personal memory, it’s only use is to learn from, the memory will all to soon become a fading life lesson or joyful experience of the past – be grateful for all life experiences … then in the present, that overpowering moment will come, you dread it, but the letting go begins, eventually in the future at some point that will transition into “moving on” … at this time a place is created for synchronicity to enter your life again … for new experiences, and yet still we wonder, especially if it is a fondly held desire or experience …. maybe its not over!
I believe that letting go is always an intention we must have in the present moment, it is not state to be reached on a mountain to be climbed, for after a while, what was once a cherished experience, or an ambition or a person .. we struggle, we seek to try to triumph over the obstacles, we try … but at some point an awareness comes that perhaps the gap between you and your beloved is so vast, you don’t know the way, you can’t fix what is wrong yourself – you need help, but it does not come, you are adrift in a fog at sea without a paddle or compass … the gap between you widens, the relationship begins very slowly to wither, perhaps because of lack of thought, kindness, or even empathy for the others experience, or perhaps for your own … these are the little deaths by degree, we fear, we doubt – especially when we reflect on the wonder of what was – but it withers before our eyes, we should engage to heal, but if that isn’t possible, we fight – we tenaciously hold on by our finger nails, but inevitably we will accept what is clear, it’s over. Eventually we will emulate that well trodden historical meme … “time heals” … we detach, and we have a space in our lives, for something to come at some point … and suddenly we are in a strange place …. we are free, that kind of scary freedom, where we are truly responsible for our lives, hold true to your values in choosing what may come … eventually that once cherished dream, becomes a memory which eventually we will place at the back of the dark bookshelf in the archive of our mind – from this we can draw some comfort from the understanding that without forgetting life would be impossible.
We then begin the hardest task of all, for its time to go on alone, we feel someone is strangely absent, but strengthened that the world didn’t end … we process the loss and in some cases even the expectation of what never came into our present … and we begin at first with the most tentative baby steps, we step by step create the future from what comes into our present at that future time. We forgive the past, we smile lovingly at those that visited for such a short time, then eventually we are free to begin again, we do this so we don’t carry the past with us, and so the past does not affect our future … but still even after all this, in the solitude of the moment we reflect, perhaps whilst we wait in line for coffee, or in solitude at the park, we wistfully muse on what might have been, and wonder !!
Much, much later, we wander through our senses and you discover that life has a different taste … a sense of wonder for what may come … for me, I want the present I have to manifest in its full glory, if not I wonder what is to come, but I know that whatever comes, I will be open to it and flow :)
I wrote about the principles of Socrates Fundamental Principles – on this blog – http://bit.ly/qW3zgk
Here I am writing about Gandhi and his 7 Dangers to Human Virtue … the 7 things that will destroy us.
- Wealth without work
- Pleasure without conscience
- Knowledge without character
- Business without ethics
- Science without humanity
- Religion without sacrifice
- Politics without Principle
We as a culture and a society fail in every single count. We need change in our society.. because we are not living in harmony, we are living, or trying to live alone … I coined the term “Social Intelligence” — a crowd sourced consciousness and intelligence
If we can somehow live the life for others, which of course means that others live their life for us .. what is wrong with that or we could encapsulate it by saying “If we all lived for others – sounds so great, as remember that means that others are living their life for you”
Remember what Martin Luther King Jr. said in 1955 … “Christ gave us the goals and Mahatma Gandhi the tactics.”
This has to be brief, as when you look at what is going on, one could fill a bookshelf …
Well since I wrote the last one in 2013 – here – a lot has happened … I feel the paradigm is in it’s death throws, though those in power don’t know it yet, much could be ameliorated if only we would learn from history – even looking at the British even the Roman empires, but as Hegel said, one thing we can be sure of is that humanity never learns from history.
I feel that the problems are profound that beset this paradigm, half way through 2014 … much of it comes to the maturity of the paradigm, and the inability to see outside of the current beliefs .. except for some rare counties, like Iceland for instance … for most however the centralized command and control will disintegrate to transition, eventually to regional even community based priorities, I am not sure the change will be without issues, even assuming that Gaia herself, who is not passive as she is after all a life form, or should I say the pre-eminent life form, so far as we are concerned – our activity has taken her out of balance – hopefully she does not say enough is enough and issue an event on the world to get rid of the pesky humans … assuming she does not then we have a few problems that will come as a result firstly as the United States, withdraws from the world, leaving a power vacuum .. Which will be filled by the likes of Russia and China … however the contraction of the USA will have an effect on both Russia, whose major income source (in USD$) is energy (Oil and gas) and China manufacturing … both economies are at risk from a weakened and contracting America – much of this relates to the USD$ itself (whilst it remains a reserve currency, which may also change) – worldwide, there will likely be a huge adjustment in global economies, where millions, perhaps hundreds of millions will be at risk.
Worldwide we are in a state of crisis, with those in Government being driven by fear as they run to control us … with the total invasion of the internet as detailed in the Snowden revelations .. through legislation, through money, through our beliefs, through manipulation by fear and scarcity, through blatant power .. the hang onto the past, the strangeness here is that they think they have the right to take these actions … this of course brings us to a whole new subject, that of our underlying belief systems which is another post I am working on … mind you if we closely look at the basis of many beliefs, those which we have so far chosen to accept, many are without foundation – but like every choice we are nationally and individually creating our future with it!
Governments further with a typical head in the sand approach from Politicians, denying what is happening all around us to the climate and continued pollution to the land, the water and the air we all breathe … meanwhile the still major driver at this stage of the paradigm, the USA is self destructing as consensus for a way forward cannot be reached, for my money, the main protagonists is the Tea Party, a section of religious fundamentalists, who believe in the ideology of the bible .. but have little faith and zero love and compassion (strange when Jesus said “love one another” ), for anyone including other Tea Party members as the organization is tribal in nature – appealing to the lowest common denominator of thinkers and those who believe in the America of old, mind you it is strange when you consider that the whole Tea party structure, although it originally began as a grass roots movement, in response to the Global meltdown, has been hi-jacked and is now running the agenda of Corporate America, under the visible guise of the Koch brothers, that at the very least. Seriously, tell me what is the difference between the Taliban in Afghanistan and the Tea Party in the USA, that is beside the name – the desire to control women and their bodies is extreme ignorance … please note we have already had a time when the world was ruled by superstition, continuous warfare and religious ideology, it was a 1000 years ago and was called the dark ages for a reason.
The USA the hereto main driver of the world economies is financially compromised, still spending more money than it is earning, and more on defense that the next 10–15 countries combined .. strange when most of them are friendly .. I suppose because war and the weapons of war are a profit center – and of course a way to project the influence of the USA itself … Politically the US Government is incapable of passing any legislation to control Corporate power … such as making Corporations and individuals taxable on their entire world wide income .. because Corporate power is the true Government of the USA and indeed many other countries … I hope that the USA can find consensus and make the necessary changes in its priorities and ultimate direction as currently there is no will to do this, further examples such as with the EPA which knows that Fracking is a disaster as there is more than sufficient evidence, but is doing nothing .. visible .. both fresh water (essential for life) and land are polluted … similarly with GMO’s whose long term generational effects are unknown, is treating the whole population of the USA as Lab rats … sensibly some countries including Russia (which has a very large home grown food production base) which has made these genetically modified organisms illegal … if GMO’s are so great why the huge campaign to stop the labeling of them on food supply – that is surely what an open free and transparent Government would do … I am shaking my head here … does humanity have a death wish! … you have to wonder if these proponents of GMO food, are true believers and eat it, or it really is just about the money, power and control .. it would be interesting to see what is on their dinner plates.
Tensions break out all over the world in countries that are aggressive and fearful, this now includes a fearful America, and the thing that fear generates is aggression .. the use of drone strikes, disregards justice and the rule of law and the worst part is that it is now bureaucrats that decide who lives and who dies … I would not be surprised to one day see a drone strike within the USA – a desperate response from those in power to maintain control, even as the structure itself dies.
A cause of conflict in the future, may be centered on food and fresh water, so food sovereignty is a huge priority, second to that of course is fresh water … efficiency of food production is also an issue with the Institution of Mechanical Engineers confirming that up to 50% of all food never reaches a human stomach see the link here – the full 36 page PDF Report is here
Where I live, the Government is also following the command and control paradigm into the abyss … just a step or two behind – mind you there is a huge amount of controversy and response from the people at the direction the Government wishes to head, so I am not sure how much will be implemented .. for I can foresee that the Prime Minister of Australia, will again be sacrificed for political survival of the party itself .. really I’m not in favour of Political parties at all .. all representatives should be accountable only to those who elected them, no one else.
Change is one thing it seems, it is all pervasive as the world moves on, but acceptance of that change is clearly another thing, for Governments clearly have no idea of what to do, they are stuck with the greatest illusion, the one that says money has value, when it is just paper, backed by nothing more that the belief that it is has value – my old accountant Arthur told me that money is just squiggles on a piece of paper nothing more .. this will become abundantly clear after the next global financial meltdown, which will happen … from which there will be no way back .. actually the planet and us will not survive unless the current economic system does fail.
Energy is the foundation of our society, it insulates us from the reality of climate and distance .. it powers transportation, refrigeration, heating and communications, everything in fact … it is mission critical to our survival in our current numbers … while many are in agreement, that humanity in the current numbers and way of life, is a plague on the earth .. for the future will require us to seek balance with nature, renewable (only) energies, working with her to create a harmony – working from what we each need, not what we might want .. also by not trying to control her, so we can have an ideal way of life – we need to compromise.
The world should be running towards a totally renewable energy sources, with the total scaling back of non-renewable resources, such as oil .. but it’s not … such a decision requires vision and foresight, and of course courage, something that most politicians do not have, as they are only looking at ways of being re-elected .. to say Politicians are out of touch with the average citizen is a true understatement.
I am thinking here of the quote by William Pitt, a former Prime Minister of Great Britain “Necessity was the plea for every infringement of human freedom. It was the argument of tyrants; it was the creed of slaves – William Pitt” – we see this every day in relation to “security services” – the supression of the independance of that media that is not control by the Corporates … in the USA, the Military / Industrial / Intelligence industries are in charge and of course the Patriot Act and other controls that are being placed on the freedom of ordinary citizens … I have spoken before about the likelihood of civil unrest and possibly the cessation of an increasing number of States from the Union, even as far back as 2009 the prospect of Civil war in the USA … not sure that this is as likely anymore as many people are generally without hope, and distractions of the Gun debate, Blame, War, politics, gambling, the media, beer and sports are distractions and their world view is blatantly manipulated by the media and by Governments, who blame anyone but themselves and control through fear and scarcity … if however an event occurs, that triggers a confrontation between citizens and Government, then there is a huge amount of firepower available to Governments to “maintain order” – a that time the dream of freedom that was America will truly be dead and will be consigned to legend along with the legend of Arthur and Camelot … mind you a method of controlling citizens will work until the first soldier says no to killing an unarmed fellow citizen.
The once powerful middle class has been decimated and are scared of what is happening (of course) those is power, who are at fault (of course) because of their inability to navigate the new circumstances will blame anyone but themselves (divide and rule), the current favorite, totally unjustifiably is that Politicians blame Americas woes on the homeless or the out of work, who are of course the most vulnerable in society, some states have it together, for instance Utah who has given homeless people a place to live, no strings attached … but elsewhere they are seeking to deny the issue of homelessness even exists by outlawing feeding these, the most vulnerable in a society, including children, .. together with the recent revelations about the Veterans Administration, and their total inability to treat with honour those who fought for their country … my feeling about the future is guarded to say the least.
But there is hope, if we change what we value, to disregard the media and their manipulation driven by their Corporate owners and focus on our neighbours, decide and support what you value and disregard what you don’t … most importantly our local communities are where we should create. Worldwide we should be looking to ourselves for survival, turning green spaces over to growing food, recycling and conserving water… .. truly it’s not that far away, I imagine, where we will be digging up parking lots to grow food – perhaps check out the Incredible Edible Todmorden a visionary free food project that has been replicated worldwide – http://bit.ly/1oEMO05 & http://bit.ly/1ih3ftR
It will be a little while yet, but we are definitely in transition from the old paradigm of conflict, command and control to one of love, collaboration, community, co-existence and communication .. and of course balance … let me be just one to say welcome! – I hope we make it, I hope you make it, and I hope I make it as well … but the most important thing is that our children do.
By the very nature of this medium, this has to be an outline, not a point by point detailed exposse .. but If you feel I have this wrong, please do not hesitate to contact me …
Hugs … Please have some Empathy and understanding for the lives of others – for everyone is doing their best they know how …
For me, what is real, comes down to Love, compassion, sharing and Kindness, for these are truly of value
I was thinking about Steve Jobs the other day and a quote of his came to my mind … it went like this
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backward”
He is so right, many months ago, it was as if I was in a dark room, feeling my way forward, but I kept falling over stuff, the future that I had invested in was always out of reach … my brother did what only brothers can, and asked me to look at the dark room again, but differently this time.
I went into a familiar process that I had first completed some 20 years ago, it requires only commitment and absolute honestly – it is essential that we face our demons, for until we do, we project them onto the world, through our reactive unconscious acts, hurting those we love, and who love us … since this time, the second process has been completed (such that it can be or ever is), the fiction that fears are real was revealed and you move past them .. you are at a new plateau, just, so long as we stay aware and keep owning your weaknesses.
When one is within the darkness, we can only feel the pain, for that part of us has no way of communication through language … it takes time, it take commitment, courage and time .. I honour all those who go through any recovery process.
It is wonderful to feel your family’s love, but what they cannot do is facilitate or enable you – they will withdraw from you – to support you how they feel they can … it is as if they take you down to the dock for a long sea voyage … you can still feel their love .. but this is a journey we must take alone.
In hindsight, part of connecting the dots, you learn lots of things about yourself – you understand, accept and value yourself, you make friends with who you really are, and also with your ego, to understand it better .. you learn that there is almost no pain when we are present, for then the ego has no place to hide – you take what you have learnt and over a period of months you let go of the past and bring only the learning into your life – Staying present develops further into acceptance of what is and the letting go of expectations and any sense of a need for control, then one day and every day after, you are just grateful – you feel balanced and stronger, but most of all you are free. Frankly being truly free is a bit scary, but you try new things, people engage and you are on your way.
If one must label things, most of the time you are mindful – you bring a huge focus to anything that is in your present, because you are present … you are careful of where you walk so you don’t tread on insects, you spend hours down by the beach, or in the woods, noticing every aspect of the web of life, the trees, the grass, the birds, of life abundance – new insights come, you experience your consciousness expanding like a wave, flowing outwards into the world … it is intoxicating and yet so much more .. but it is I feel only a beginning.
In this moment, I find life is a wonder – you don’t judge, you love and understand the behaviour of others, and even if you don’t understand, you feel real compassion for what they are going through (for I feel everyone is doing the best they know how to), insights come, and it feels good to engage and help others .. but the real outcome is that you know who you are, you need no one’s approval for you have your own, you engage more with the community and surprisingly you are detached even from your own future …. you flow with what life brings as it comes into your present and you look to the future – you can still feel those you love, but it is as if you are traveling parallel paths, you wonder !…. but you know whatever happens, what a journey there must be yet to come, for all of us, together or apart ….. whatever comes, you are up for it
Where I am right now, I doubt I will be directly addressing this introspective aspect of me again, well anytime soon that is … for I guess the time for a definitive on any subject is well and truly gone.
I have a new list of subjects for blog posts coming up including an update on the State of our Paradigm I did last year .. interesting times … thanks for reading and if any are within such an experience as this, know it will be different for you, but flow with it, honestly and with courage, you too will come through. If you need a sounding board, contact me, I will help if I can.
It is easy to look at what is wrong with the world, and only see the negatives of life … but recently I have chosen to change my focus away from the faults of humanity, with the realisation of a faint hope, as there are many people from all walks of life, just quietly going about making the world a little better through simple acts that work to create a positive future as well as many unheralded acts of kindness – they do this without press releases … they just do!
We are all on a journey, even those in the majority who currently appear to be spiritually unconscious … looking at life through their intellect, and their inward looking perspective, denying their feelings and spirit – for it is my belief that it is a mistake to intellectualize our existence including our spiritual; side, for in doing so we are denying our humanity and a evolutionary imperative which is to achieve spiritual consciousness. Each of us as a member of humanity hopefully evolves from Childhood from our original enlightened states, to be educated normally into unconsciousness and through our life hopefully to an awakening of sorts and eventual consciousness – when we can look at the beauty that is in the world, all life and humanity … but most of all, with this real understanding comes love.
I look at the Universe, and think to myself, I have so much to learn, but I feel the first step is that I have so much to unlearn !
Whilst there are huge problems in the world, coming from those in power, who actions come from being spiritually unconscious, it is so clear that we are being continually manipulated by those in the ever more powerful Corporatocracy which seemingly runs the world … where Government and Bureaucracy seem to be their support, Entertainment and Public Relations Divisions … this is our status quo, and a huge influence on our cultural narrative … the way those in power and influence want to mold us and shape us to fit their view of the world and hence rubber stamp their flawed agenda which affects the future, concerns me .. it is evident in the way that we are presented with information, which we all must realise is never the whole story (or in some cases anything that resembles the true story) … we are manipulated knowingly to manufacture consent for their unconscious actions – currently it is Syria .. perhaps tomorrow Iran .. all for what reason .. one underlying motivation … money, oil and power … if anyone thinks that those in power care for the tens of thousands who are suffering …. please they do not.
There are other major concerns that continue including pollution, flawed water usage practices, including Hydraulic Fracturing (which is consuming and polluting our water reserves) and of course the current star in my opinion Genetically Modified foods (GMO), where companies including Monsanto are playing with humanities gene pool, trying to force us to eat seeds that are actually lower in yield than the wonder that nature has produced for us – Nature however has a major advantage – her products have had extremely long term testing and are safe for us to consume … on the other hand all Genetically Modified Foods have had inadequate or no testing, certainly no long term generational tests – many times I have wondered if those at these GMO’s actually are true believers and eat these foods, or it really is just about the money, the power and the influence … and and so ladies and gentleman … welcome to the Monsanto and others world Laboratory .. where we are the test subjects, the Lab Rats.
After reading the above, I have a sadness … but this is what I mean … many things are wrong, but can I directly do anything substantive ? No – I can only affect my environment in consultation with my loved one’s, who may of course have other points of view – so a compromise may be reached … but for me, I am finding again that focusing on the negative adds to my stress levels, takes me out of balance and away from the present into the realm of illusion. What I would prefer, is to be conscious … and hence creative, peaceful, giving and loving – so I have decided to try and detach myself from these concerns unless I can actually contribute … for many of these concerns are in areas where I cannot have any direct input – worry and angst serve no positive purpose.
Am I still concerned, about the things that are wrong ? Why Yes of course … and given the opportunity to actually help I probably would, but am I now preoccupied with what is wrong? No! – I will quietly go about doing what I can to help us to prepare for the future by focusing on what I can create in the present … where everything in ones life has a potential for incredible depth and meaning.
Instead I am going to try and live by a simple prayer if you like … ”May my life be creative and be of benefit to love, life and the future” – if you think about the implications of such a statement, it alone, takes so much responsibility to guide our right thoughts and actions.
It may interest you, that once I made that decision, for the next few hours … a huge amount of stress bled from my body … strange and wonderful.
I have just come to the insight that when I am old and perhaps sitting in my rocking chair on my verandah … reflecting on my my life to that point … I will look at the life that my choices have created and I will be content that I have given everything I had … I will understand that I did the best I could have done given the beliefs and expectations I had at the time.
We need to learn from life .. as Einstein said … most of us keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results, surely this is the true definition of insanity .. we all do it … we try and engage with people with our flawed behaviour patterns and wonder at some point why more is demanded … I have these failings … what worked in a business environment, has no chance of working in a personal relationship … we need to hit a moment in our lives, a surrender point … and in that moment the imperative comes … as it does for the whole of humanity … change is the only course there is … its only about the stakes. The only thing that can be changed is the present … that is where we create the future – however when we have nothing left by choice or by circumstance that is when we are the most open to change … to find a way to achieve that, to rebuild who we are and to control our flawed behaviour patters would be something wonderful .. there must be a way … indeed something to think about, any thoughts would be welcome!
For the past, there is nothing creative that can come from regrets … they are only good for wallowing in … take the learning of those experiences, integrate them with your life, and move forward, allow those lessons to change the future.
Don’t get me wrong … I have screwed up sometimes publicly, many times personally with my loved ones and family … but at the time I led with my feelings, sometimes they were fraught and scattered .. too often they were about me and my needs … and not what they should have been … but like all of us … life is an inside job … we create the life we believe in … the one we should have, at any moment in our lives – this changes in every moment as we evolve.
That is why our past does not determine who we are now, or in anyway it has a relation to who we will become … give yourself a break … the future is yours to create in this moment … for me I don’t have goals as such (other than to help who I can) … I believe in a living my life, based on a few basic truths and with my values … they will get me where I need to be.
What each of is focus on may be different for each of us .. that is your personal preference, each one is valid for you
For me these are my focus:
(1) each morning I get out of bed, looking forward to the day ahead and what it will bring to me .. what I will learn.
(2) I know there is much I cannot do, but I can live my life in the best way for me … as well what I can do within my sphere of influence is to help who I can … who hopefully will pass that feeling onwards to others … I also know that looking at the enormity of what does need doing to make this a more loving world .. I can only help who I can … even if that is just one person, who hopefully will help others.
(3) Now, I think before I speak … knowing that what I say affects others .. trying to make everything I say improve on the silence .. because silence itself can be incredibly powerful – hence if you can’t say nothing that is positive and creative .. don’t say anything at all :)
(4) Be curious all the time at everything and anything – in relationships (all) seek to understand before you seek to be understood.
(5) I like to walk, to exercise, I suppose it is part of my meditation .. the pure zen of it, the one step in front of the other …
(6) I like to nurture … to create .. to me that manifests in my life in the building and investing in relationships … most times these are not deep .. but some can be … whether they end up being sustainable … is not really what is important … what is, is that every experience and every person that comes into your life, teaches you something about you … and what you need to understand and let your self push beyond your own boundaries .. to grow and evolve.
Love everyone … for they are part of us … all life is … my parting gift would be forgive yourself and look to, and trust your feelings for you know how you want to live your life … trust absolutely few people in your life … for trust is the ultimate gift one gives to another … it is the foundation of all real, long term “life” relationships. For me in that regard … I have been very fortunate.
Comments would be welcome … what aspects of life are important to you ?